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My wife Nikki and I enjoy a marriage today that is completely different from the marriage we had before she discovered, in 2010, that I had been cheating for the entire 23 years of our marriage up to that time.
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As a phenomenon, this hasn’t been extensively researched yet, but it’s one that many people can relate to. It describes what happens when someone is betrayed by their partner and this arouses a deep need to win back their partner’s affections. As such, since the betrayal was often of a sexual nature, the method employed is often one of sexual experimentation, and increased sexual frequency.
If you want to put an affair behind you; to completely eliminate all the pain, to create a beautifully connected and affair-proofed marriage going forwards, then this is going to be the most important blog post you will ever read.
Infidelity can be one of the most painful things you experience, next to losing a child. The pain you feel can be excruciating and you might wonder if you can actually get through the next day as you feel so utterly lost and worthless.
In this pain-filled and fragile state, it seems to make perfect sense to turn to the internet for answers. And indeed there are answers out there, but sadly they are buried in a sea of misinformation, emotional outbursts and truly misguided unhelpful ‘advice’.
Having been in both a disconnected, painful and essentially ‘unloving’ relationship and also, latterly, a deeply connected, committed and fulfilling relationship – with the same man! – I think I may be in a fairly unique position to be able to offer my guidance on how to achieve marital bliss, so here goes!
For many married men and women, the discovery that their spouse has been unfaithful comes as a total shock.
It’s been a little over eight years since I discovered my husband had been cheating on me. I still remember that night quite well, but it doesn’t hold any pain for me now. We were sitting in a hotel room down in London, preparing for a property training course the next day. I casually glanced at a workbook which my husband had completed during a recent Tony Robbins personal development seminar and a question caught my eye. “What do you regret most in life?” it asked, and there in my husband’s distinctive handwriting he had written the words “being unfaithful”.
As I said, that night was eight years ago and the journey to the present day has been interesting. Lots of highs and lows but I can, hand on heart, say that I’m really glad the infidelity happened because we have an amazing relationship now and I know that we wouldn’t have that, if things had drifted on as they were.
Today I’m going to talk about my husband’s background.
Are you and your spouse experiencing the devastating pain which infidelity in a marriage can bring?
If so, possibly the last thing on your mind is reaching out to be coached through your crisis as you deal with a confusing cocktail of emotions, shock, shame, guilt, worthlessness and even paranoia, yet there are some very compelling reasons to do so.
See the video series for more on this:
The Phenomenal Power Of Unconditional Love In Healing The Pain Of Infidelity — 10 videos.
Video 1) Can my marriage recover from an affair?
Video 2) Why do people have affairs? — understanding human behaviour
Video 3) Unconditional Love will affair-proof your marriage
Video 4) The cause of anyone having an affair started in their childhood.
Video 5) The adult junk food we use as emotional nourishment — which by the way — includes having an affair.
Video 6) How could my partner have an affair? We used to be so “in love!”
Video 7) My spouse had an affair. Why does it hurt me so much?
Video 8) I had an affair. How do I deal with my spouses’ anger and hurt?
Video 9) How can we repair our marriage after an affair?
Video 10) How can I introduce Unconditional Love into our marriage after an affair?