Pete Uglow’s Blog
Trust is difficult for many people in relationships. After all, there are a lot of feelings on the line and plenty at stake. Trust takes time and effort to build and maintain. When we add distance to the relationship equation, establishing faith in someone’s actions...
There are couples who claim they never fight, but I rarely find a couple who have a conflict free relationship. Some people think that having a conflict free relationship is an impossible expectation and that disagreements, rows, and frustration is completely normal...
We recently wrote on the importance of apologising, and how a large part of a genuine apology is not expecting forgiveness in return. While that holds true, learning forgiveness is an essential component of a healthy and loving marriage—or any relationship for that...
Saying “I’m sorry” to our spouses is often incredibly difficult. It can feel like admitting defeat; having to swallow pride and admit wrongdoing takes a certain kind of strength. We have to realise that we’ve really messed up and hurt the person we love most in the...
Infidelity has the uncanny ability to inspire an intense need for revenge. For many spouses, it is the first time in their lives they’ve been so heavily betrayed. We’ve all heard examples of a scorned lover taking retribution by cheating in return. Revenge is as human...
When we were all little children, we were fed a lie. Unknowingly, this lie was initiated by our parents, it was supported by our grandparents, our aunts and uncles and cousins, and then our teachers, our friends, and eventually our spouses. And nobody meant to do any harm – but sadly they did. They all played some part in teaching you what love was – and no-one taught you the right thing. It was like everyone taught you that the world was flat when it is round. They taught you the world was flat because they believed it was flat – not because they wanted to teach you the wrong thing.
Healthy love is love without any conditions. It is caring about someone, caring about how they are feeling, without needing anything back from them in return. It’s not, I’ll love you, if you’ll love me.
You see the condition in there? It’s always characterised with the word ‘if’ or ‘as long as’ or ‘when’ or ‘because’.
No matter how long you’ve been in a relationship with someone, whether it be weeks, months, or years, building emotional intimacy is essential to the strength and happiness of your relationship (it also plays a big role in physical intimacy). Married couples will...
That will depend on your ability to COMPLETELY ignore it. Can you know what your wife is doing and still behave towards her like you did when you first met. Can you look at her adoringly, compassionately and encouragingly or are you looking at her with eyes of betrayal and resentment.
Does love require 2? Must there always be an object when the word love is used? If so, how does this speak to the concept of self-love?
See the video series for more on this:
The Phenomenal Power Of Unconditional Love In Healing The Pain Of Infidelity — 10 videos.
Video 1) Can my marriage recover from an affair?
Video 2) Why do people have affairs? — understanding human behaviour
Video 3) Unconditional Love will affair-proof your marriage
Video 4) The cause of anyone having an affair started in their childhood.
Video 5) The adult junk food we use as emotional nourishment — which by the way — includes having an affair.
Video 6) How could my partner have an affair? We used to be so “in love!”
Video 7) My spouse had an affair. Why does it hurt me so much?
Video 8) I had an affair. How do I deal with my spouses’ anger and hurt?
Video 9) How can we repair our marriage after an affair?
Video 10) How can I introduce Unconditional Love into our marriage after an affair?